I’ve heard or seen this situation come up a lot. You get into a relationship and your boyfriend/girlfriend starts talking to your close friends a lot.
For the most part this is pretty harmless.
There are usually 3 situations for this:
1. ) Friend was friends with loved one before you started dating:
In this situation there is no helping it. Your friend was in the picture long before you started dating. Depending on the situation this is harmless if the relationship that you have with him or her is strong and the relationship has a strong foundation built on trust. Many times I seen this situation go from harmless to troublesome because of jealousy and lack of trust that ends up pushing the loved one away. We would like to believe that you can trust your partner so that nothing happens but sometimes people are just trifling hoes, in that situation it can’t be helped. Best you can wish for is to hope they are man or woman enough to fess up.
If you are a follower you should already know how I feel about cheating.
2.) Partner meets new friend and they talk a lot
Personally for me, in this situation first thing I would hope for is that this new friend is gay! Crisis averted…nothing to worry about. All jokes aside, in this situation it comes down to the same thing. TRUST. You need to trust that your partner will always do the right thing. Lets face it, sometimes there are people out there who will gun for your man or woman. Its a bit flattering but in the end you need to trust your partner will do the right thing. The right thing includes being sure to not lead this person on and or if the situation comes up when this person did something, he or she need to come to you and be up front about what happened. Especially if a pass was made.
3.) Introduce Girlfriend or Boyfriend to your own close friends
Sometimes two people from the same circle of friends get into a relationship and sometimes both people come from two completely different circle of friends. Who doesn’t want their girlfriend or boyfriend to be a down ass chick or guy right? I remember a time in the past where a friend of mine was pretty upset about his ex-girlfriend taking all his friends away after they broke up. The situation was that the said ex had become really close to his friends that he introduced to her. Break up was nasty and friends sided with her.
Personally I love having my girlfriend close to my boys. Theres nothing better than your boys loving your girlfriend. It makes hanging out very enjoyable. It also means that she has their blessing which in some cases is very hard to do. You want to make sure all of your friends approve of the girlfriend. Granted not everyone is going to like someone and for me I trust and love my boys enough that their opinions do matter. I trust that if someone is toxic or no good for me they would intervene and let me know. Sometimes its okay to not care what others may think but for me i think its important that everyone in my life gets a long.
In the previous situation, all I can say is that those friends were not REAL friends. In the same situation, my boys would never abandon me. Thats the difference between a friend and a TRUE friend. My friends will always take my side whether I’m right or wrong. That is how you know they are your real friends.