Blueprint of the Mind

Sharing my perspective on life through my personal experiences, ideas, and my evolving thought pattern.

Friendship, a Two Way Street ….. sometimes

Every now and then I feel a little sad when I realize that I haven’t talked to certain friends for a while. The feeling is not uncommon and I’m sure plenty of people experience the same thing that I do. I mean who can blame us, it’s easy to get caught up with the struggle that is life. We are always busy with something; whether it be work, relationship, hanging out, traveling, etc.

Sadness is one way to describe this feeling of distance in a friendship. Maybe it can be described as depression or even experience withdrawal.

We associate certain friends with periods of time in our lives that we love. Nostalgia in a sense. Reminds us of the good times. We all want to be taken back to the good old days.

Personally I’m very indifferent about this subject matter.

One part of me says that friendship is a two way street. That if two people are truly friends or care enough about each other one person will always take the initiative to contact the other person. Being good friends is not about how much time you spend together, its about being able to remain good friends no matter how much time is spent apart. Thats how I’ve always viewed it. I can always hit up someone and if we are good friends we can always continue where we left off. Likewise if someone hit me up I reciprocate. 

The other part of me is all whatever with certain “friends”. If they haven’t made the effort to get in touch with me why should I bother with them? At this point I can do two things. I can take the “high” road, for lack of better words, and just contact that person because I care enough to do so. The other option is to say fuck it… I dont care enough to try. 

I guess that would mean that we’re not really good friends.

Why do guys do the proposing?

Why do guys do the proposing? Also if the girl does the proposing, what does she buy the guy? Everyone knows the diamond ring is a marketing ploy. Video is great…..what if roles are reversed?

Take my own advice, don’t think twice, cause loving you is my biggest vice

…cause I’ve had enough of me not havin’ enough.

I started off my day hung over, taking the flushing van to Brooklyn because I hopped onto a van without confirming its final destination. I finally arrive in Chinatown in Manhattan and I’m dying for a coffee so I go into a Chinese bakery to eat alone.

As I am eating there is this super old Chinese grandpa staring at my leg; obviously curious about my vitiligo. He continues to stare and stare to the point where its about to annoy me because I’m already in a bad mood. 

Then out of no where, with the most innocent question he asks me in English “What is that?” I tell him that it is Vitiligo.

This old grandpa asked me to write it down in his pad, and as he opens up his pad I see pages and pages or random words. So I then do the same and ask him the same question… “What is that?” 

He went on to explain that he promised himself a long time ago that he would learn english in his lifetime. He realized that he might not have that much time left and his goal went unaccomplished. Determined, he has spent the last 9 months learning english. Simply just by writing down words, and looking them up in a Chinese-English dictionary. He said he just likes to strike up conversations because he learns new words every time. I was astonished by how much English he knew. 

He then proceeded to ask me things like: “Is Vitiligo contagious?” “Does this make you sick?” “Are you healthy?”

We continue to talk for about 15 more minutes before he has to go. 

This encounter made me realize and reinforce the idea that it is never to late to do something you set out to accomplish. With hard work and dedication you can do anything. This old guy made my day.

I started off my day hung over, taking the flushing van to Brooklyn because I hopped onto a van without confirming its final destination. I finally arrive in Chinatown in Manhattan and I’m dying for a coffee so I go into a Chinese bakery to eat alone.

As I am eating there is this super old Chinese grandpa staring at my leg; obviously curious about my vitiligo. He continues to stare and stare to the point where its about to annoy me because I’m already in a bad mood.

Then out of no where, with the most innocent question he asks me in English “What is that?” I tell him that it is Vitiligo.

This old grandpa asked me to write it down in his pad, and as he opens up his pad I see pages and pages or random words. So I then do the same and ask him the same question… “What is that?”

He went on to explain that he promised himself a long time ago that he would learn english in his lifetime. He realized that he might not have that much time left and his goal went unaccomplished. Determined, he has spent the last 9 months learning english. Simply just by writing down words, and looking them up in a Chinese-English dictionary. He said he just likes to strike up conversations because he learns new words every time. I was astonished by how much English he knew.

He then proceeded to ask me things like: “Is Vitiligo contagious?” “Does this make you sick?” “Are you healthy?”

We continue to talk for about 15 more minutes before he has to go.

This encounter made me realize and reinforce the idea that it is never to late to do something you set out to accomplish. With hard work and dedication you can do anything. This old guy made my day.