Every now and then I feel a little sad when I realize that I haven’t talked to certain friends for a while. The feeling is not uncommon and I’m sure plenty of people experience the same thing that I do. I mean who can blame us, it’s easy to get caught up with the struggle that is life. We are always busy with something; whether it be work, relationship, hanging out, traveling, etc.
Sadness is one way to describe this feeling of distance in a friendship. Maybe it can be described as depression or even experience withdrawal.
We associate certain friends with periods of time in our lives that we love. Nostalgia in a sense. Reminds us of the good times. We all want to be taken back to the good old days.
Personally I’m very indifferent about this subject matter.
One part of me says that friendship is a two way street. That if two people are truly friends or care enough about each other one person will always take the initiative to contact the other person. Being good friends is not about how much time you spend together, its about being able to remain good friends no matter how much time is spent apart. Thats how I’ve always viewed it. I can always hit up someone and if we are good friends we can always continue where we left off. Likewise if someone hit me up I reciprocate.
The other part of me is all whatever with certain “friends”. If they haven’t made the effort to get in touch with me why should I bother with them? At this point I can do two things. I can take the “high” road, for lack of better words, and just contact that person because I care enough to do so. The other option is to say fuck it… I dont care enough to try.
I guess that would mean that we’re not really good friends.